Have you ever looked at your child and said, “Oh my, this child of mine has a lot of energy”? Or have you ever thought, “Wow, my child is very emotional.”
Some may call this a spirited child. Others may label a child difficult, feisty, or even strong willed.
Having an awareness of a child’s natural temperament can prevent us from labeling them in ways that diminish our appreciation of them! When a child’s behavior is challenging, we start to evaluate a number of outside influences to answer any questions we have about the type of behavior we observe. We look at the environment. Maybe we look at the time of day. Perhaps there’s a situation the child is navigating.
How can we celebrate the child who exhibits more tenacity or feistiness? Perhaps we consider the child with focus, tenacity, and feistiness will stay at a project and finish. Maybe that same child will be able to withstand other distractions, when others may have lost focus or given up.
Appreciating the temperament of each child will help us observe and adjust our expectations in ways that can assist our children be successful in their growth and development.
Mary Sheedy Kurcinka is featured as our guest in this episode discussing that spirited child.